“There needs to be a special kind of feeling that allows a family to carry on…it’s not something that thrives off others, because it’s something that gives” – this is a snippet taken from a really simple but beautiful Japanese book (Amrita by Banana Yoshimoto) I read recently and I cannot seem to shake it.
For me that snippet provoked thoughts of community, of togetherness, of honesty, of selflessness, of compromise, of love…. It really made me stop and think, think not only about myself in the context of my family (as in husband and three children) but also my parents, siblings and wider network.
So what is that feeling that makes a family carry on? How can it be created, who creates it? Does it mean that one cannot be an individual and selfish ?